Diabetes and Marriage
I remember it like it was just yesterday! I was at school and felt deadly tired. I had a huge headache in a way that I couldn’t resist it. As soon as I went home, I told my mum that I wasn’t feeling too well to go for the M.U.S.E.U.M lesson. I spent two months with very painful headaches and weight loss from being dehydrated and was constantly sleeping without energy besides, frequent urination and drinking gallons of water. My parents suspected that something was not right. I looked very pale and ill. My mother phoned our family doctor to examine me. As soon as the doctor arrived home and started his examination, he got out a small blood glucose monitor and pricked my ear. Nervously, I observed his facial expressions. I knew that something was wrong! After three seconds, he told us that I had very high blood glucose level. It was nearly 30.0mmol/L.
All of us being in complete shock, the first thing that came to my mind was that my grandpa’s cousin was also a diabetic and he had gotten his leg amputated because of this condition. It was one of the worst feelings I have ever felt. I literally felt like the world was falling right beneath me.
One day I thought to myself, I don’t want to look back at my teenage years with any regret. I had to stop worrying too much about things I can’t control and focus on living a happy and fulfilled life. When I was 14 years old, I met my boyfriend, who is now my husband. I always wished and dreamt of building my own family. Therefore, the thought of planning and working towards my dreams helped me a lot to continue striving in reaching my own personal goals in life.
Day after another, year after a year … it was like a never ending story! It’s crazy how fast time flies and how things progress. I couldn’t let my diabetes stop me from doing anything. I found myself planning our wedding which were very exciting times. However, I still had a negative thought striking into my mind. Since, I was diagnosed with diabetes I was always scared that I won’t be able to have children in the future. I searched on the internet and found out that a person with type 1 diabetes planning to have a child must have a very well controlled HBA1C.
One day after another, I did my best to overcome these negative thoughts and continuously worked on my blood glucose levels. My mum, who is definitely my rock, is always there for me in every single situation. She has made it possible for me to be who I am today. Also, meeting over coffee and talking with friends living with T1D really made a big difference in my life. It’s the best medicine to cope with diabetes. The support is tremendous and it really makes a difference on our daily struggles.
Nowadays, I am a married woman and yes … I am expecting my first child. Why do I feel like I am in a dream? Maybe it’s because I never believed in myself. But yes, I can assure that with certain precautions, support and planning ahead, a woman with diabetes can make all of her dreams come true, including that of becoming a mother. It is not easy!! Finger prick pains, checking blood glucose, adjusting medication according to pregnancy trimesters, proper nutrition, frequent visits to the professional team BUT it is all worth it. Feeling the movement of life inside me makes me forget all the sacrifices and scary moments I went through the past few months.
I have no more words to say except – I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles. People with diabetes are warriors! We are much more than the pain we feel.
The person writing this story wanted to share her experience and wished to remain anonymous for personal reasons.